“I don’t know.’  Hearing these words from clients, loved ones, or friends, really used to irritate me.  Particularly because I noticed that a lot of times it sounded like people using this as an excuse or subconsciously they didn’t want to deal with something.  I saw it as a cop-out.  Hmmm ……  Well, I had my own aha moment around “I don’t know” this summer that I would love to share as it was such a great eye opener for me!

As adults we have been trained, conditioned, coached, that as responsible adults, we’re supposed to know things. We need to know the answers, what to do and say, how to feel, what to do next, bla bla bla.  So, in my process of rebranding and reinventing my business, I came to a point where I realized I did not know …. I did not have clarity in that moment of what I wanted to do next. Until I embraced this and said “I don’t know” out loud, I felt incredibly stuck. I could not let go of the old to embrace all the possibilities of what was ahead and what I wanted to do, how I wanted to look, what I wanted to share or have, and so on.

So I invite you to try this the next time you’re in a situation where you really feel you don’t know the next step.  First of all, own it and be okay with whatever the feeling is. Think about what that means and know its only true in this moment. Say it out loud, or write it down and notice what comes up for you.  At first there will likely be fear, vulnerability, perhaps sadness, maybe even shame or impatience and frustration. Decipher for yourself if it is truly a “I don’t know” or is it a way you have been using I don’t know as an excuse not to make change, deal with something, or perhaps feel some feelings your not desiring to feel! Only you know . If you’re still confused get someone objective, to help you discover what it is for you!

And then notice what happens. As you surrender to this not knowing, you will probably notice a feeling of freedom or lightness like a weight lifted from your shoulders. And really, it’s okay not to know.  It’s kinda like – wow, I can not know and still be here and be okay.  Or you might feel more than okay!  It can be a feeling of elation and a sense of woo hoo! because you have just opened the door to a world called Possibilities. From this new relaxed place of acceptance of where you’re at, the door of possibilities becomes clear and accessible. And I gotta tell you, that is a juicy place to be!!

Don’t just take my word for it.  Bring on the gifts of the “I don’t knows” in your life!  I can hardly wait to hear what happens for you!  And by the way, you really do know!  Sometimes we need to say I don’t know to get into the possibilities of your knowingness.

Here’s to Lovin the “I don’t knows” in your life!

Gigi